Love advice makes its second year debut in the library. Everyone is free to submit questions or concerns that may arise in a relationship, and submitting said questions or concerns is easy! You can submit concerns either in the library, or via the online submission box below. All submissions are anonymous, and we respond to them as often as we get them!
This week’s question: “How do I move on after my relationship has ended?”
We understand that losing anyone who was of significant value to you is not going to be easy, and we’re not going to pretend that it’s going to take 5 minutes to get over this situation in your life. We do, however, have experience in this particular situation.
First of all, you need to surround yourself with things that aren’t going to remind you of them, and essentially rub salt in the wounds. For instance, if you have a different text tone for this specific person, change it back to the same tone that everyone else has. If you have emojis next to their contact name, remove them. This will help you rationalize the situation, and take a step back to understand the scope of their actions, instead of looking at the situation and telling yourself oh, well it’s my friend/boyfriend/girlfriend.
Second, engage in activities that will allow you to find yourself again. Relationships with other people involve a lot of effort, and sometimes it is easy to lose yourself in the process. Some of these activities can be reading, working out, or maybe just focusing extra hard on schoolwork. This will distract yourself from the sadness that comes with an ended relationship, and help you focus on yourself.
When you were born, you were given everything you needed to survive; don’t let society tell you that you need something (or someone) to be complete. You never know how independent and strong you are until you find yourself in a situation where you have to be.